hello and quick question

Post by **ste860** » Sat Sep 29, 2007 1:06 pm

well ive been reading hhad for along time now,so decided to register.
i have a dilema ive been to hua hin several times in fact spent 7 months there in the last year,now my problem is. i have a thai g/f who i have been with for nearly a year,now ive decided to move to thailand to be with her,i know its not going to be plain sailing,my problem is i told her i was moving out and she seems happy ,she has told her friends shes excited,but i have the doubt that she may have a thai boyfriend ,no proof or anything. but i am unsure if she would be happy i was coming out to live if indeed she did have a thai b/f,im just a bit unsure ,mainly because while away i do trust her ,but then because you hear so many storries it sets your mind playing tricks.can any one shed any light on if this is normal,when im there she is with me 24/7 months on end

Post by **DawnHRD** » Sun Sep 30, 2007 11:36 am

None of us can really answer, as we don't know your girlfriend, or your/her circumstances.

Do some Thai ladies string along farang boyfriends while having Thai bf's or husbands somewhere in the background? Yes.

Do all Thai ladies do this? No, by no means.

Is your girlfriend doing this? We can't possibly know.

My personal opinion though is that you shouldn't make any big changes to your life that involve someone you (rightly or wrongly) have doubts about. If you have any doubts about such a major upheaval, you shouldn't do it, IMO.

Post by **richard** » Sun Sep 30, 2007 5:13 pm

ste860

Happens all over the globe

And it's not just a female thing. We guys stray too

What has happened in the past regardless of knowing about it doesn't matter. It's what's going to happen in the future

If you are permanently here it makes a difference. Many Thai girls think 'oh he's gone home and may not be back' They need security. If you settle with one long term they are the most caring beings in the world

Up front, though, you need to sort out Terms and conditions

I've never looked back and if I did I'd have to admit she is an amateur and my track record is worthy of an Olympic gold!!!!

Most girls do not like or trust Thai men. Look at how many have babies and father is missing?

Good luck but look forward not backward

Post by **PeteC** » Sun Sep 30, 2007 6:02 pm

Some of the best advice I've read about this place in a long time, Richard. Pete

Post by **richard** » Sun Sep 30, 2007 6:36 pm

Pete

Thanks but it's Common sense really

However We come from Mars Farang ladies come from venus. Thais come from Pluto

Post by **ste860** » Mon Oct 01, 2007 1:22 am

well richard that is how i see it too,but i just feel a bit worried its a big move for me and im trying to show her that im serious about our relationship,just got cold feet every few days and am looking forward to trying to start a life with her ver there ,just hope it works out ,

Post by **Jockey** » Fri Feb 01, 2008 1:01 pm

So did you make the big step and has it worked out?

Post by **GOLDIE** » Sun Feb 03, 2008 2:58 am

i had doubts when i met my thai wife of 4 years mainly because of other peoples "advice" AND SINCE WE HAVE BEEN TO GETHER IT HAS HONESTLY BEEN PLAIN SAILING WE HAVE LIVED TOGETHER IN THAILAND AND ENGLAND WITH NO PROBS.