THAILADY

Post by **PAULGARLO** » Sat May 12, 2007 1:23 am

Hi all been seeing a girl from thailand now for 12 months, 6 of them there but came back to england & been in england for 6 months. I am still keeping in contact with this lady and hope to see her in a few months when i return, but just got a little worried when she asked if i could send some money app 20000 baht per month till i return she said it would really help, her and family.
Don't think i will be sending money & maybe need to have a good talk to her when i return.

But i think what im really asking all out there is what is the national minimum wage, how much do thai families live on per month, why does she need so much money per month, is she working while im in england, am i falling into a trap.

Tx all
Paul

Post by **STEVE G** » Sat May 12, 2007 1:45 am

With regard to Thai salaries, have a look at this:http://www.boi.go.th/english/how/labor_costs.asp

Post by **Guess** » Sat May 12, 2007 3:38 am

This question has been asked many time. There is not enough information to make an accurate assessment.

However 20,000 Baht per month is fairy typical request if not a little on the low side. It would depend upon how much she thinks you can afford rather than how much she needs.

The mystery is why she has waited for 6 months before making the request. It may suggest that she is genuine and that a real problem has been encountered by her family.

My advice would be to ask her what the money is for and why is it needed now. If she is genuine she will have no problem telling you what it is.

Your judgment alone is the only way to solve your dilemma.

Post by **lomuamart** » Sat May 12, 2007 5:51 am

Are you serious?
Don't send any money. Easy isn't it?
Your loving relationship will be tested then.

Post by **DawnHRD** » Sat May 12, 2007 7:31 am

As said before, this is fairly typical in this sort of scenario; either to be asked for a monthly payment or for large one-off payments for a sick buffalo/mother's funeral/new pick-up/school fees etc etc.

You just have to decide whether you want to pay it. If you don't, you risk losing your lady, but you'll keep your money.

One note though: I am not referring to your lady, as of course I have no idea about you, her or your relationship together, but bear in mind some ladies do have more than one patron sending them money.

Post by **STEVE G** » Sat May 12, 2007 9:26 am

PAULGARLO, don't forget that this is Asia and you have to haggle a little in these matters!

Post by **Nereus** » Sat May 12, 2007 9:50 am

Love him or hate him, methinks you should take a look at Stickmanbangkok site. Weed out a lot of the irrelevant crap and there is some genuine material on there. Then think twice and act once!

Post by **designer** » Sat May 12, 2007 4:04 pm

the monthly wage for an unskiled thai lady is only 5000 to 7000bht
working in factory ect but if she is a bar girl 20000 will be very low
for her,my girlfriend lives in a village near udon I send 6000 bht a month
she has never asked for more,let the big head do the thinking

Post by **redzonerocker** » Sat May 12, 2007 8:27 pm

can you afford to send her money?
do you like/love her that much that you are prepared to? & do you trust her enough?
i think reading all the replys here are a pretty good guideline.
i'm sure in time you will hear quite a few tales, mostly negative & it is a common scenario. i would say though, only you will be able to make the decision based on your own judgements.

Post by **2dandan** » Sat May 12, 2007 9:01 pm

Paul

I will be your friend for the sum of 15,000 Baht per month.

If anybody else needs a friend, the charge remains the same.

Would all my new friends please send the money to my bank account using direct debits.

The money will help me (bar bill) and my family.

Thank you.

Post by **redzonerocker** » Sat May 12, 2007 11:27 pm

no problem dandan, just send me your account number & i'll transfer the money

Post by **PAULGARLO** » Sat May 12, 2007 11:49 pm

Hi all thanks for the advice I do really like this girl but,...i don't think it's going to happen just don't like the idea of sending money after only spending 6 months with her. Been traveling to hua hin for over 6 years now & never been in this situation before, and to be honest it feels very
uncomftarble and not the norm for me, also when i spent 6 months there i treated her like princess paid for everything island hopping flights to laos & Vientiane and Luang Prabang got her a new motorbike put new roof on family home got shot of the old tv ect, ect,
BUT SHE IS A BEAUTIFULL GIRL & HAS A GREAT FAMILY OH NO WHAT TO DO GGRRRR.
Well i suppose it's true she don't go working the bars while im in england or she wouldn't need to ask for money or would she ?
this is causing such a dilemma in what was a peacefull mind of mine and why as she asked all of a sudden out the blue she knows im coming back soon has she stopped working bar ? has her hamster died and she need funeral fees on my god i don't know but it's got to end soon one way or another.
TX PAUL

Post by **Rider** » Sun May 13, 2007 1:04 am

Cool it down Paul, you are sounding like a bit too trollish!
My advice, don't send the money, consider it a test of her honour. If when you get back to Thailand she's with another man then you've saved yourself a lot of hassle. If they ask once, they'll ask again and again ad infinitum...

Post by **2dandan** » Sun May 13, 2007 1:58 am

Redzonerocker,

Thank you. You are a very nice person. I like you very much.

You will become my friend when I get the money.

Post by **redzonerocker** » Sun May 13, 2007 5:09 am

don't beat yourself up over it paul.
in the meantime, i would take riders advice.