Paying a bar for a girl to leave

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Pleng wrote:For a group of guys hell bent against anybody lumping bar girls all into one category, you seem to be waging quite a virulent campaign against any girl who has been educated or was fortunate enough to be born into a wealthier family. Seems a little....

So not all bar girls are xyx, yet all Hi-So's are wxy?
From my point of view, it has nothing to do with just bar girls. I myself came from a modest background and started work at sixteen, so I tend to disagree with any point of view towards the idea that wealth and education equates to some kind of superiority.
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And hopefully, if you continue to be a school teacher, you will learn the difference between "there" and "their"!
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STEVE G wrote:
Pleng wrote:For a group of guys hell bent against anybody lumping bar girls all into one category, you seem to be waging quite a virulent campaign against any girl who has been educated or was fortunate enough to be born into a wealthier family. Seems a little....

So not all bar girls are xyx, yet all Hi-So's are wxy?
From my point of view, it has nothing to do with just bar girls. I myself came from a modest background and started work at sixteen, so I tend to disagree with any point of view towards the idea that wealth and education equates to some kind of superiority.
Everyone should have the chance to better themselves and not be held to the station they were born into.
I quite agree with you Steve. I happen to believe that it works the other way too. And it saddens me to see that a lot of people have turned from defending bar girls from a bunch of generalizations, to attacking hi-so's with a whole other bunch of generalizations. Stinks of hypocrisy.
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Cing Jai wrote:I didn't read the whole thread but please let us know if requests for money start coming in after you've left Thailand Lee. If not you might have found the 1% but, and with all due respect, every story I have ever heard or read about someone taking a girl from a bar does not have a happy ending.

Why do you guys think these low class, uneducated women are all that is available to you? Learn a tiny big of the language and you can have your pick of the good middle-class office girls who make 5-10k a month and are just dying for a nice husband who will treat them right.

Wow, just seen this, thanks for your input Cing Jai. Although you could have read the whole thread before jumping in feet first.

She has not asked for money only due to the fact that I said I would give her money every week. She now has one of my ATM cards (dont worry, it only gets topped up every week and it's/was a dormant UK account that i never used and I have full control over it regarding limits etc)
I top up the account every week and she hardly touches the money that i put in there.
A 1000bht a week she has taken out, but she rings me to tell me she will be taking the money and as I said before, if you would have read the whole thread, she has another job now and is happy to fend for herself. She appreciates the money I send her, but she says she is doing ok on her own money, she only uses the 1000bht to top her phone up so we can talk.
She is now sorting a passport out to come over to the UK, but I told her not to bother because it's pissing it down non stop, so I have just booked a flight to go over in October to see her and we will sort out a visa for her to come to England

Also Interesting reading regarding the lower class & middle class girls etc.
I have met many girls who worked bar that also went Uni and many girls that work bar because they are poor.
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sargeant wrote:Plus the obligatory farangs like dark girls Thai comment

which should read almost all white Thai girls are either rich Thai wives or 2nd or 3rd wives and aint interested in farangs
Good point Sarge - surely there's a trend among HiSo and/or rich Thai guys to go for lighter skinned Thai women who fit in with their new found status? All of course influenced by TV and the media. Just as Western folk are programmed to believe that a tan is good. Weird eh?
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Pleng wrote:And it saddens me to see that a lot of people have turned from defending bar girls from a bunch of generalizations, to attacking hi-so's with a whole other bunch of generalizations. Stinks of hypocrisy.
Seems pretty normal. The poor defending the poor and complaining about the rich.

Anyone with a modicum of intelligence and life experience knows they are generalizations. The forum would be like ploughing through treacle if you covered every possibility and far less entertaining if only politically-correct contributions were allowed.

Instead of synthetic outrage, why not fill us full of warm fuzzy feelings about 'Hi-So's. You must know them well.
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Lest we forget the OP was doing all due diligence and checking things out a very sensible thing to do
and all the best for him and his tea lack :D

You see i did not do that with my ex wife

i always told my EX wife never forget where you came from
a perfectly reasonable request and she was doing exactely what i told her

i just didnt know her mother was a gambler and gave birth to her in the casino

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sargeant wrote:

Plus the obligatory farangs like dark girls Thai comment

which should read almost all white Thai girls are either rich Thai wives or 2nd or 3rd wives and aint interested in farangs

margaretcarnes wrote:

Good point Sarge - surely there's a trend among HiSo and/or rich Thai guys to go for lighter skinned Thai women who fit in with their new found status? All of course influenced by TV and the media. Just as Western folk are programmed to believe that a tan is good. Weird eh?
Whoever says beauty isn't skin deep has never been to SE Asia.
Don't lose sight of the fact that this was very much the case in the UK and France too - the monied classes went to great lengths to appear whiter - lead based face whiteners being the most obvious example. It wasn't just fashion, it was to show you didn't work in the fields to make your living. It only really died when the monied classes began to take 'winter sun' holidays, starting in the 60's. Suddenly, having a tan was a sign of wealth - especially in the winter. Of course, mass tourism has cemented that notion even more firmly - who wants to be a pallid north European bluish white?
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Korkenzieher wrote:- who wants to be a pallid north European bluish white?
Or Aussie orange peel?
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It's amazing how topics drift..........
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Hi

I have been in Hua Hin for 8 months or so and offcourse i fell big for the beauty of the thai girls and the country.
As i was a newby one year ago, i did not care and enyoing myself because i was in controle, after a while say 4 months i lost my controle and than it started i did not want to loose her.
Than i had to go back to holland and emotional i had no controlle anymore and started to do stupid things for 3 months because i have not so much money to support her and her family she broke up and have a new guy.

My experience with the lady bargirls is that now i can say enjoy your time but keep in controlle emotionally, what you do with your money its up to you you give big or small its only shorten or extend your time in thailand when they have it all you have to go back.
I always say nothing comes for free in live and for the beauty you pay thats why people go to thailand for the whole concept
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