[quote="STEVE G"]I I'm not still paying 50 pounds an hour for a solicitor![/quote]
Steve,let us know your secret,50 pounds an hour for a solicitor in UK for divorce.I never got off cheaper than £110 and that was 12 years ago in south East England and not London so have you really been to see one recently.
Significant in this post is that Roberto actually made some exceedingly relevant points but I also thought Wanderlust sent an excellent reply but anytime anyone dares to bring up this point it sends everyone who has a thai wife/girfriend into an absolute frenzy of justification which I do not understand if you are living or happily married to a thai girl thats great.I realise he used the dreaded word Prostitute that most people align more with Kings Cross in london or even Sydney but methinks deepdown you are only giving verbal outlet for you own perceptible insecurities on the subject.Now Roberto is pursued by a small minority who make very short posts,including one who has made 700 posts in one year,on any subject he raises.What does astound me however is how people who have visited Hua Hin,enjoyed those great favours that only thai girls can bestow at a price and then always refer to them as their girlfriends.Thats a paradox in itself.Get great posts on here sometimes but give the guy a break he views things differently from the mainstream and should be respected.
Who is exploiting who
The only thing I'd disagree with you on, Digger is that I can't see any reference from anyone since Roberto's post that says they're either married or in a relationship with a Thai girl.
The thread started off ages ago about who was exploiting who? Personally, I'd agree with some posters 100% that the exploiters are the Thai families. It's not us farangs. It's not the girls. It's the twats up country that send out their youngest daughters to "work" as they're expected to provide for the family.
The era of farang/bar girl situations is relatively new here. In this current generation of Thailand, the older daughters are married and used to the Thai way of life. It's the younger, more pretty ones who are forced into this situation by their families.
That's something of a way of life for them now and as one person suggested to give them the opportunity after they start to "mend their ways" by offering them money is, in my humble opinion, ludicrous. Try and save some yourself. They'll happily take your money and be back at it again the next day. Unless you're lucky enough to find a girl who genuinely wants to settle down and you're able to take care of her. Then you've got a friend indeed.
Where there's demand, there will always be supply. In my view, nobody's exploiting anyone, except the families and boyfriends. The number of times I used to see bar girls slapped by their Thai boyfriends on Bintabart for not getting home and giving the lazy bastard enough money, I can't begin to remember. It makes me sick.
That's the reality. OK my opinion, but I've seen it in action enough times.
The thread started off ages ago about who was exploiting who? Personally, I'd agree with some posters 100% that the exploiters are the Thai families. It's not us farangs. It's not the girls. It's the twats up country that send out their youngest daughters to "work" as they're expected to provide for the family.
The era of farang/bar girl situations is relatively new here. In this current generation of Thailand, the older daughters are married and used to the Thai way of life. It's the younger, more pretty ones who are forced into this situation by their families.
That's something of a way of life for them now and as one person suggested to give them the opportunity after they start to "mend their ways" by offering them money is, in my humble opinion, ludicrous. Try and save some yourself. They'll happily take your money and be back at it again the next day. Unless you're lucky enough to find a girl who genuinely wants to settle down and you're able to take care of her. Then you've got a friend indeed.
Where there's demand, there will always be supply. In my view, nobody's exploiting anyone, except the families and boyfriends. The number of times I used to see bar girls slapped by their Thai boyfriends on Bintabart for not getting home and giving the lazy bastard enough money, I can't begin to remember. It makes me sick.
That's the reality. OK my opinion, but I've seen it in action enough times.
[quote="lomuamart"]The only thing I'd disagree with you on, Digger is that I can't see any reference from anyone since Roberto's post that says they're either married or in a relationship with a Thai girl.
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Lomu,great follow up and am relieved that I have not rattled too many cages by my comments,however on this specific post you are functionaly correct that no one has admitted to being gloriously happy with their Thai girlfriends/wives but they have on other posts and rightly so as they happy with their situaton with their partners so why split hairs over something that you knew anyway.I am sure all other contributors on this post are happy to hold their hands up and I would too but it did not work out that way for me probably because I had problem with age differential more than any other specific reason.
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Lomu,great follow up and am relieved that I have not rattled too many cages by my comments,however on this specific post you are functionaly correct that no one has admitted to being gloriously happy with their Thai girlfriends/wives but they have on other posts and rightly so as they happy with their situaton with their partners so why split hairs over something that you knew anyway.I am sure all other contributors on this post are happy to hold their hands up and I would too but it did not work out that way for me probably because I had problem with age differential more than any other specific reason.
Hi Digger, actually no, I have’nt been to see a solicitor recently in the UK, it was in the early 90’s.
What happened was that I split up with an English girl that I had lived with for about three years. About a year after this she decided to take me to court for half the value of the house that I had payed every penny for!
This was on the grounds of common law marriage,she had been put on to this by her new partner. I engaged a solicitor ( I don’t remember the exact amount but it was under 100 pounds an hour, you understand I try to forget about this incident ) who told me that she had a reasonable chance of winning.
Now when we had split up, I had paid her a sum of money to cover the financial input she put into some joint purchases. In her greed she lied about this and luckily for me the case fell apart.
Just for the record, I am in a relationship with a thai girl that I’m very happy with, but it took several attempts and for sure most of the horror stories are true. I had been in relationships with asian girls for about 10 years before I found one that I could genuinely call a partner.
What happened was that I split up with an English girl that I had lived with for about three years. About a year after this she decided to take me to court for half the value of the house that I had payed every penny for!
This was on the grounds of common law marriage,she had been put on to this by her new partner. I engaged a solicitor ( I don’t remember the exact amount but it was under 100 pounds an hour, you understand I try to forget about this incident ) who told me that she had a reasonable chance of winning.
Now when we had split up, I had paid her a sum of money to cover the financial input she put into some joint purchases. In her greed she lied about this and luckily for me the case fell apart.
Just for the record, I am in a relationship with a thai girl that I’m very happy with, but it took several attempts and for sure most of the horror stories are true. I had been in relationships with asian girls for about 10 years before I found one that I could genuinely call a partner.