Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

General chat about life in the Land Of Smiles. Discuss expat life, relationship issues and all things generally Thailand and Asia related.
User avatar
margaretcarnes
Rock Star
Rock Star
Posts: 4172
Joined: Wed Jan 02, 2008 8:28 am
Location: The Rhubarb Triangle

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by margaretcarnes »

Ario has made a very valid point there. Getting that amount of time off work does seem a bit strange - just watch out for any clues and go with the flow.
There are many farang/Thai marriages which are happy and successful, regardless of any age differences But I still remember one friend - Eric - who was married to a much younger Thai lady for a few years. Sadly it went wrong. Eric found a new, even younger, lady who stayed with him until his final days, and he was happy. As for the wife who had left - he was philosophical, and always said that he had no regrets, and that they were also happy while together.
That seems to me to be the only way to cope with any ups and downs wherever you live and whoever you are with.
Meanwhile enjoy your trip - it does sound like a heavy schedule though, so be prepared to be more flexible if you feel the need to slow it down.
A sprout is for life - not just for Christmas.
oakdale160
Rock Star
Rock Star
Posts: 4657
Joined: Sat Jul 06, 2013 9:51 pm

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by oakdale160 »

Listen to what I said about PLAN B. I was part of a 'rescue mission"A guy who had had a year long electronic courtship only to find that everything he had been told was not true and that a wedding had been arranged.
We had to do a midnight pickup and fast retreat. Be sure that your phone has Thai access and that you have a GOOD back up plan.
sargeant
Deceased
Deceased
Posts: 4055
Joined: Tue Sep 19, 2006 2:52 pm
Location: Pranburi CITY

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by sargeant »

quote the OP
but in particular if you are in your early to late 60's and she is in her mid 30's.
Just for interest how many that have replied fit the OPs original criteria

I do :D :D :D
A Greatfull Guest of Thailand
User avatar
richard
Deceased
Deceased
Posts: 8780
Joined: Tue Feb 18, 2003 1:59 pm
Location: Wherever I am today

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by richard »

I did but now I am getting younger the gap has narrowed
RICHARD OF LOXLEY

It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
jingjoe
Guru
Guru
Posts: 529
Joined: Tue Jul 03, 2012 9:02 am
Location: hua hin hill top

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by jingjoe »

I have been divorced from a thai lady now 12months.We have a child together and live 2 doors from each other, we had an amicable divorce and are civil to each other and share equally the responsibility of bringing up our son in hua hin.
Im 46 she is 33.
So i have no ill feelings towards her so this is not a bitter response.
Ok i don't think i would ever marry or live with a thai lady again.After the lust went away,i found the cultural and social differences too much,no stimulating conversation,no common interests in movies music,politics or anything outside of thailand,even food had to be thai for her,no going to the beach or pool because she didnt want to get dark.........i think i would rather live alone,interact with my friends and visit bangkok or patts for some fun.....
Jose
Specialist
Specialist
Posts: 249
Joined: Mon Mar 08, 2010 12:46 am

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by Jose »

This does not sound promising, I meets lots of ladies from thai dating sites,
you will find that most good thai girls will be very busy either working or family time,

give me a link to her facebook or dating profile and I'll message her and ask her if she has bf or not.
Ripcord
Rookie
Rookie
Posts: 24
Joined: Wed Aug 21, 2013 9:10 pm

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by Ripcord »

Jose wrote:This does not sound promising, I meets lots of ladies from thai dating sites,
you will find that most good thai girls will be very busy either working or family time,

give me a link to her facebook or dating profile and I'll message her and ask her if she has bf or not.


wow :naughty:
User avatar
Roel
Guru
Guru
Posts: 975
Joined: Tue Jun 26, 2007 10:21 am
Location: Phuket

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by Roel »

Ask her why she wants to establish a relationship with a much older farang instead of with a Thai man her own age. She should be able to find one quite easily if she is well educated and does not have any children. If she replies with the well known "all Thai men are lazy, unfaithful and drunk all day" I suggest you do a runner.

But Jose's advice -maybe a little bit unethical but very effective- is even better. Chances that she starts flirting are high. However suppose she starts talking about YOU and that she is looking forward to meeting you, now that would be something.
We are all living in 'the good old days' of the future.
User avatar
richard
Deceased
Deceased
Posts: 8780
Joined: Tue Feb 18, 2003 1:59 pm
Location: Wherever I am today

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by richard »

Strange...................no reply from the OP
RICHARD OF LOXLEY

It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
NY2LA
Novice
Novice
Posts: 2
Joined: Wed Sep 04, 2013 5:03 pm

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by NY2LA »

To all of you who have given up your time to answer my post I thank you very much. I will keep all of what you have said as good advice. I don't believe I want to go to the extreme of determining her loyalty by having someone contact her to see if there is loyalty. People will screw on their own if given the time. I will say that she has never asked me for money which is the norm on most of these dating sites and gets very upset if I offer to help her. This does not mean that she would not ask in the future.
I will go on this trip with the intent on having fun, seeing new places in Thailand and getting to know her better. Again thank you so much for your time and suggestions.
User avatar
Arlo
Professional
Professional
Posts: 483
Joined: Fri Dec 30, 2011 12:22 pm

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by Arlo »

Roel wrote:Ask her why she wants to establish a relationship with a much older farang instead of with a Thai man her own age. She should be able to find one quite easily if she is well educated and does not have any children. If she replies with the well known "all Thai men are lazy, unfaithful and drunk all day" I suggest you do a runner.


Don't Thai men consider Thai woman in there 30's past there prime? I think there might even be a thread about that on here.
User avatar
margaretcarnes
Rock Star
Rock Star
Posts: 4172
Joined: Wed Jan 02, 2008 8:28 am
Location: The Rhubarb Triangle

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by margaretcarnes »

Arlo wrote:
Roel wrote:Ask her why she wants to establish a relationship with a much older farang instead of with a Thai man her own age. She should be able to find one quite easily if she is well educated and does not have any children. If she replies with the well known "all Thai men are lazy, unfaithful and drunk all day" I suggest you do a runner.


Don't Thai men consider Thai woman in there 30's past there prime? I think there might even be a thread about that on here.

Hmmm - so did Henry the 8th - maybe Thai men have the same reasons?
A sprout is for life - not just for Christmas.
User avatar
hhfarang
Hero
Hero
Posts: 11060
Joined: Fri Mar 12, 2004 1:27 am
Location: North Carolina

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by hhfarang »

Thanks Margaret! You just brought to mind fond memories of my youth remembering Herman's Hermits:

I'm Henry the 8th I am,
Henry the 8th I am, I am,
I got married to the widow next door,
She's been married 7 times before,
And every one was a Henry (Henry),
She wouldn't have a Willy or a Sam (no Sam)
I'm her 8th old man I Henry,
Henry the 8th I am!

:D Sorry, :oops: :offtopic:
My brain is like an Internet browser; 12 tabs are open and 5 of them are not responding, there's a GIF playing in an endless loop,... and where is that annoying music coming from?
User avatar
Roel
Guru
Guru
Posts: 975
Joined: Tue Jun 26, 2007 10:21 am
Location: Phuket

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by Roel »

Arlo wrote:Don't Thai men consider Thai woman in there 30's past there prime?
Let's make it more universal: Don't men consider women in their 30's past their prime?

All the best to the OP. Enjoy! And keep us posted if you feel like it.
We are all living in 'the good old days' of the future.
User avatar
richard
Deceased
Deceased
Posts: 8780
Joined: Tue Feb 18, 2003 1:59 pm
Location: Wherever I am today

Re: Marriage to a Thai lady: looking for the real answers

Post by richard »

Roel wrote:
Arlo wrote:
Let's make it more universal: Don't men consider women in their 30's past their prime?
All a question of whether you like your fruit ripe or unripe

Mature Thais like unripe fruit (less than 30)

Mature farangs tend to like fruit when ripe (more than 40)

I like my fruit when it's just turning (34 to 39) :naughty:
RICHARD OF LOXLEY

It’s none of my business what people say and think of me. I am what I am and do what I do. I expect nothing and accept everything. It makes life so much easier.
Post Reply