This is a follow on form the "Lease agreements" topic that went off topic but is worth continuing.
As per the suggestion
buksida wrote:I'd suggest starting a new thread on this one as it would generate a good debate IMO (or maybe a shit-fight). What about a poll on age differences?
I have added a poll. If you are more than one year younger or over 30 years older please specify.
I would like a shot at answering Digger's comments first.
Digger wrote:A very serious question
Does it not bother people on this this board that they cannot own outright property in this country
Yes I think it does but as SJ says it is counterbalanced by other desirable aspects.
............... dares to question the utopian lifestyle that you profess to lead with your G/F's .generally 30 years younger.......
I doubt anybody sees it as Utopia but many people have stable and meaningful relationships. 30 Years younger is an exception. Many men of 50 would not consider a long term relationship with a twenty year old. But anyway what would be the difference in their own countries if they could get younger women as partners.
About 2 years ago some posts came across about the ease of living in malaysia ref to residence and buying property but somehow it did not seem to appeal to The Thai junkies who progress from a weeks holiday in Pattaya to a a more sophisticated resident of Hua hin
I cannot agree with your reasoning. many people dislike Malaysia, Indonesia and the Philippines for totally different reasons. For me Malaysia is priced out of my reach otherwise I would be there. Taking a single man's holiday in Pattaya and falling bin love with the country is one way people are brought her but only a minority that I know.
...............,my real feeling is that75% visitors who become residents come for the female flesh and I look forward to being corrected if this is an incorrect supposition.
I really don't know how you can be corrected. Every person has his own reason and I don't know of any statistics. Also you have to rely on people telling the truth. I reckon your 75% may be accurate but company and romance may be a more appropriate than "female flesh".
As a lifetime overseas oil worker and traveller,I never found Thailand beautiful,especially in the isthmus south of BKK,everyone say the climate is great and then runs the AC for 12 hours a day/8 months a year........................,Luang Prababang or Nha Trang perhaps but Ho Hin no way
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I, too am a lifetime working traveler and have found Thailand to be well above average in the beauty stakes. The weather is good and the beaches are nice if you get away from the resorts. I can only assume that "the isthmus south of BKK" is referring to the Isthmus of Kra. Why you should pick out that particular fairly small area is a mystery. It has a complete variety of scenery such as rain forest good beaches, wild coconuts, mountains and fast flowing seasonal rivers. No climate in the world is ideal for me but her (100KM north of the Isthmus of Kra), it is as good as anywhere in Thailand. I have aircon in my house but bit rarely gets switched on.
Luang Prabang is an ancient city of even more historical importance than Chiang Mai. For me it is worth a visit and I would recommend it anyone.
Exotic like beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I do not want to live somewhere that is exotic by your reckoning.
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Again I think the first option should be "Same age or within a year" as age differences can go either way - older or younger, most people assume the Thai g/f will be younger. Age difference in the Buksi castle is about 6 months.
Who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed? - Hunter S Thompson
I also think the 30 year age gap is the exception, but maybe that idea is based on the number of older guys who holiday here and are seen with their 'holiday girlfriends'? I also think the perception that men choose to stay in Thailand over other Asian countries because of the women is not the case, although I would think it is a factor in some instances. Equally if it was purely a cost decision then more would head to Indonesia, and my guess would be that in terms of female beauty and availability Vietnam would be #1. A decision to relocate somewhere is normally based on a number of things, and if a woman (or man) that someone has met already is one of them then one is not going to consider the availability of other potential partners I wouldn't think. Or maybe I am out of touch with how the majority think.
Anyway for the record, I am well over 30 but under 50 and there is a 15 year age gap between my wife and I, and i came to Thailand as a backpacker, as part of a never ending trip to wherever I fancied, when i was 37. I was attracted to South East Asia because i had never been before except for a few days in Singapore and a week in Bali on a previous backpacking 'round the world' trip. Of course i found that the women were stunning, but so too was not only Thailand itself but several other countries, and how anyone can say that they don't find large areas of Thailand beautiful i really don't know, unless they travelled around with their eyes closed. Climate preference is a really personal thing, and is often dictated by where you grew up - it was a big factor for me in leaving the UK as i was fed up with spending 7-8 months of the year with grey skies and cold rain; Thailand can be a little too hot sometimes for me but not very often, and then it's time for an ice cold beer and/or a dip in the sea/pool. Preferable to a bowl of soup and a hot bath i think, but then each to their own.
Super Joe wrote:When men, in the main, get to basically choose/pick their wife then the age gap will be large in many cases.
Agree with that, had my eye on a 48 year old for a while now ...
Another question would be "would you be able to enter into a relationship with the same age difference in the west?". These things are viewed differently by both men and women in the West and in Asia, a bit of a four-way quandary! Would be interested to hear some female views on this thread.
Who is the happier man, he who has braved the storm of life and lived or he who has stayed securely on shore and merely existed? - Hunter S Thompson
21 years difference here ( 59 vs 38 ), and we've had a successful 12 year marriage... although I keep threatening her that when she turns 40 I'm going to trade her in for two 20s!
Another question would be "would you be able to enter into a relationship with the same age difference in the west?".
Generally the woman would probably only be interested if the 60 year old man was lavishing money on the 25 year old beautiful girl. Generally.
As long as you love each other and are happy, I wouldn't care if her initial interest was money in order to have a comfortable life and take care of her family. I'd do the same